Sexuality and aging
In the same way there are differences in how each of us will age, changes in sexuality also vary from person to person.
As someone ages, their amount of sexual activity generally decreases, but their amount of sexual interest and ability remain almost the same. Most older men and women want and are able to enjoy an active, satisfying sex life.
What normal changes happen in women’s bodies they age?
- Women experience a drop in their estrogen levels (a hormone) in their bodies. With that, their vagina can become more dry and be less elastic.
- A woman’s orgasms can be less intense and her sexual arousal can drop more quickly after orgasm.
- Some woman can feel worried and have reduced self-confidence due to concerns about their appearance. This can be especially true in societies that value youthfulness.
What normal changes happen in men’s bodies as they age?
- Some men find they get an erection more slowly, and it can be less full and fades more quickly after orgasm.
- It may take them longer to “get ready” for another orgasm.
- Less sperm can be produced, and it might “leak out” of the penis, rather than being ejaculated (squirting).
What other factors impact the sex life of older adults?
- excessive use of alcohol
- grieving
- using prescription medications
- living with chronic diseases
- having certain surgeries
Options for intimacy
On the plus side, many older adults find that they have more time to give to their partners—especially those who are free from the pressures of careers and family.
There is more to healthy sexuality than just intercourse. Older adults have the experience and leisure time to enjoy many forms of intimacy, ranging from holding hands and kissing, to masturbating and having oral sex.
Understanding that these options are acceptable and available can greatly enrich sexual expression. Understanding that sexuality is normal and natural in old age is liberating in itself.
This item was last modified on June 12, 2015